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Kieran’s favorite thing to do when he gets his toddler hands on my wallet.

Kieran’s favorite thing to do when he gets his toddler hands on my wallet.

Can someone explain time to me???

Can someone explain time to me???

I was cleaning in the other room & walked out to Kieran saying “yummy yummy” with the peanut butter and a spoon. Definitely my kid!

I was cleaning in the other room & walked out to Kieran saying “yummy yummy” with the peanut butter and a spoon. Definitely my kid!

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playfulparenting I have no idea how to wean. Lol and I know Qb isn’t even close to ready. She’s only 15 months too. So I probably won’t be weaning her.

Pregnancy plus breastfeeding a toddler really wears you out though!

I’m so mad because I wrote an essay in response to this and it somehow disappeared! Here we go again *grumble grumble*

Weaning Kieran completely actually wasn’t on purpose! In the first trimester I will admit I was LITERALLY thinking about putting vinegar on my nipples when Kieran hit two because nursing was so painful! But it gets a lot easier, your nipples toughen up, and while nursing was definitely more uncomfortable through the second trimester, it wasn’t painful. 

During the first trimester I shortened his sessions & dropped a few. I explained to Kieran that I was growing “baby sister” and that growing baby sister made my nipples hurt, so I couldn’t nurse him as long. The worst was night weaning him, which I had to do for my sanity but still feel guilty about because it was definitely a few rough nights :(. Also, he nursed for like AT LEAST an hour every night at bedtime, so I slowly started cutting that down. I got one of those sleep turtles, which shut off after about 20 minutes, and told him he could nurse as long as the turtle was on, & after that he was all done for the night (I would also say the sun is sleeping, and so are nursies haha). That took some adjustment. I would basically cuddle him to sleep at first, then I moved to the rocking chair singing to him until he fell asleep, and now we’re finally at a point where I read him a book in bed, sing some songs, give him a kiss & leave the room. 

So at the beginning of the second trimester I was down to a morning session, naptime & bedtime which was doable. He dropped the morning session on his own, then for a while I got sucked into the “your TODDLER is still NURSING???? how will you deal with that when the next baby comes!!!! You’d better nip that in the bud!!!!” from some unfriendly real life people, and tried to wean him, but it was way too much stress for me & for him and I realized I wasn’t doing it for my family, I was doing it for other people’s perceptions of my family. I was ok with nap & bed time nursing! I was ok with the idea of tandem nursing! I was good!

And then he weaned himself haha. I mean we went back and forth a bit, I was not offering but not refusing. He would go days between nursing sessions & then randomly want to nurse again. But eventually he quit & stayed quit. I’m curious if he’ll develop a renewed interest in nursing when the next baby comes & he sees her doing it, but I guess we’ll see! I think what happened when I tried to wean him was he realized he didn’t really need to nurse, but needed some time to emotionally process not nursing. My milk changed, too, and I don’t think he liked it haha. I think that’s part of the reason he started nursing for hours and hours at bedtime, was because he was trying to get milk that just wasn’t there! 

Anyway, the first trimester was the worst part, if you’re like me, once you get through that it’ll be easy to continue. I would definitely be careful weaning while pregnant! Make sure to take careful stock of how you’re doing emotionally. Nursing releases a lot of happy hormones, and it’s not unusual to feel depressed when you wean! Combine that with pregnancy hormones, and it can be pretty volatile. Make sure you’re keeping your own needs in mind! When you’re taking care of two awesome little people, it can be easy to forget that you are a human being who needs caring & nurturing, too. Just remember to get your own gas mask on before you help anyone with theirs, you know what I mean? Thinking about you! The first trimester with a toddler is HARD. 

Do you plan on unschooling or homeschooling?
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I do plan on homeschooling! I don’t 100% identify as an unschooler. I think routines are important for little ones, and I enforce the routines that I think are important (if it were up to him, Kieran wouldn’t nap & would be grumpy all day, and would probably stay up until midnight anyway). My current plan with homeschooling is to follow my children’s interests for the most part, but maintain overarching routine. This is liable to change or evolve as I meet my children and learn more about their personalities. I know for myself, having routines was very beneficial; but this isn’t the case for every person, and I hope that I will respect my individual children’s personalities and be able to weigh their needs with the rest of my family’s and my own needs. I do love a lot of things about unschooling though & will definitely draw from the principles! 


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Alphabet singing! He just started singing this on his own out of the blue today! I’m mad the video cut off

Good lord.

We recently moved our modem and don’t get good wifi in our bedroom, so I’ve been going on reddit because it uses less data. A front page news article about spanking and I suddenly remember why I fucking hate reddit. Comments about people who spank their teenagers (“less often than when they were young”) and babies, comments meant to seem gentle about how it’s not about bruising the body it’s about “bruising the ego,” I just can’t. The way the mainstream commenter views children is just frightening to me. Sincerely. And these are parents. Vomit vomit vomit.

This isn’t even the first thing in the like half a week or so that I’ve been surfing reddit that has dinged my creeped out/disturbed/angry beeper. It’s probably the most egregious to me, though. Who do you want to raise your kids to be, you know? What type of people are you trying to raise?

Kieran doesn’t want to eat dinner, all he wants to do is color with mommy’s funny pens.

Kieran doesn’t want to eat dinner, all he wants to do is color with mommy’s funny pens.

I just ate three asiago bagels in a row.

Sigh.

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