potty learning life: put Kieran on his little potty, sang a potty song, read a potty book, made funny potty noises, etc… he started to get really wiggly, so I pulled him onto my lap to nurse, and he pees on me.

honestly, I think that people are fearful of positive discipline because we are taught in our society that there is only One Way to discipline.

if you’re not saying no to your child, you’re not disciplining them. if you’re not yelling when they do something wrong, you’re not disciplining. if you’re not punishing your child punitively, you’re not disciplining them. if you’re not giving your child external rewards, you’re not disciplining them. 

the truth is that positive discipline is just a skill set. you have to learn the techniques, like anything else. it’s not going to work 100% of the time, because your child is not an automaton, but in my opinion it will work more effectively than “standard” discipline, if you take the time to learn it. 

it just drives me crazy when I see things on my dash like “this [insert positive parent] sucks and is spoiling their child. children need to be told no sometimes.” saying no is just ONE way to set limits, and there are a vast number of techniques to make your child feel secure in the limits that you are setting.

if you choose to say “no” to your child, that’s fine, I do it sometimes if I’m tired or not thinking, it’s a technique— but it’s just that! a technique. to claim that it is the only way to set a limit is miseducated, imo. 

themarvelfamily replied to your post: ok, so who on here is using XIM?

Whets thiizzz?

it’s through xkit, but if you already have xkit you need to uninstall & reinstall the new version (7 or whatever) which is why it took me a while to figure it out! But when you get the new xkit, xim is an iming system for users of xkit. on your dash on the right side you see your tumblr name and the option to add users. but! you have to know who is an xkit user in order to add them and start iming them!

so basically if you are one tell me & we can talk!!!!

ok, so who on here is using XIM?

Can we talk about the fact that I just gave Kieran his first haircut? Can we talk about the bald patch on the back of his head? Jaysus!

vegansanfrancishet:

So, I paint my nails pretty regularly these days. I also work as a barista/cashier pretty regularly these days. A few weeks back, I had a customer come in, a fairly typical, sheltered, suburban soccer mom, and she ordered a latte from me. She saw my brightly colored nails and said, “Wow, you’re so brave! My son asked me about painting his nails, and if it’s okay for boys to do that. Now I’ll tell him there’s a cool guy who does it too!” It was a nice moment, very cute.

Then, last week, she came in again, and said, “Hey, I’m so glad you’re here! I want you to meet someone!” She then brings her son forward, and says, “Okay sweetie, show him what you did!” And he throws his hands up, showing off his bright, sparkling blue nails. He shows them off, and I show mine off to him. He smiles. We fist bump.

Guys, I’ve only wanted to cry once at work before, and that was when someone ordered a large dry soy cappuccino on ice.

This time, though. This was a good cry.

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My name is Erin, I am 23, and I am incapable of operating a glue gun without burning the everloving shit out of my self.

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the-adequate-gatsby:

My sister keeps asking me if I want to go see The Great Cosby with her and I don’t have it in my heart to correct her.

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Rainbow Bread Tutorial 

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sweeteverlastinggrace:

To the mom who’s breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You’re a good mom.

To the mom who’s formula feeding: Isn’t science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn’t produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You’re a good mom.

To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You’re a good mom.

To the disposable diapering mom: Damn those things hold a lot, and it’s excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You’re a good mom.

To the mom who stays home: I can imagine it isn’t easy doing what you do, but to spend those precious years with your babies must be amazing. You’re a good mom.

To the mom who works: It’s wonderful that you’re sticking to your career, you’re a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it’s fantastic. You’re a good mom.

To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you’re too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You’re feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren’t complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a red box with a big yellow M on it. You’re a good mom.

To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast lunch and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they’re learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You’re a good mom.

To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can’t run around. You’re a good mom.

To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don’t they? We’ve all been through it. You’re a good mom.

To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above? Glass houses, friend. Glass houses.